So, I experience sexual attraction, but the thought of acting on it apalls me. It's like, I can feel attracted to someone in that way, but I don't think I could bring myself to anything to act on that desire.

I'm trying to find an orientation that would suit me. I think it's when you love and desire a relationship (in my case romantic and sexual) with only one person for your entire life. I don’t want and absolutely don’t wish to see anyone else next to me and I really want to be together only with that one person. I also like people who look like him, but I still want a relationship only with him and the very thought that I will have to be with someone other than him makes me feel hostile. It's kind of like lifelong monogamy, I guess. Does anyone know of an orientation/s similar to what I described? I've searched all over the Asexual Wiki but haven't found anything similar to this. Could this be a new kind of orientation or is it something else, completely unrelated to all this? I would be very grateful for your answer and your opinion on this matter. I will be ready to explain everything in more detail if you did not understand me somewhere. Thank you!

Is there a term for when you have a crush on someone that you know you can never have and like you don't actually wanna do stuff with them?

Hello,

I’m 25, after a long relationship ended in a bad way for me is been difficult to have sex with other guys,

Initially I though it was just because of the relationship that I had and that was just about waiting a bit for feel okay to have sex, but now after more 2 years, and after a long psychologic path I’m trying to go out dating,

But I recognize I have a particular sex approach and initially i was feeling bad about it, because I have friends that had a lot of sexual experience and I’m totally free about the sex but the thing is that I don’t feel attraction and I don’t feel the desire when I’m with a guy, when I’m alone I feel sexual desire but it’s really difficult to find someone that i like, i feel bad about this because i’m 25 and i would like to feel something, it’s like not impossible but almost, just with a guy i felt desire, and maybe it was also because i felt an emotional connection with him.

But of course I cannot experience emotional connection with everyone, and also it’s weird why when i’m physically with a person i don’t feel horny but if i think at the same person when i’m alone it can be that i feel horny.

I hope someone can explain more about it because i’m just experiencing my sexuality and understanding that it’s like particular to not feel desire also if I’m really a sexual person inside and I have fantasies and everything else.

This person has been doing harm to this wiki by spamming, edit my profile without my permission and doing their "redlinksexual" thing.

I got 11 notifications because of this vandal! THIS NEEDS TO BE STOPPED! I already reported this to the Community central. This should not be ignored. This person is doing so much harm!!!

Well, the report was made. Now all I have to do is wait and hope that they'll get blocked and everything will go back to how it used to be.

I have discovered that I identify as Aegosexual. I knew I was some sort of asexual since 2020, but I’ve noticed that I read smut quite a bit. I ONLY read smut, I don’t even watch p*rn, I only enjoy smut fanfics. But I can’t even fathom being in a sensual relationship with someone I personally know, like a friend. It makes me sick even thinking doing acts like that with a friend, but I enjoy reading smut. Also when I read smut, I imagine that it’s one of my oc’s instead of me in the acts. So I feel very proud that I’m Aegosexual!

Where you're asexual in real life, but you're seggsually attracted to celebrities?

So like its not fictosexual because its not characters from books and movies, they're real people its just im only seggsually attracted to celebrities

I am aegofictosexual, or at least i think.

I feel attraction through the character's pov, but i read fantasy series about talking dragons. Does it count if its dragons?

So, I'm trying to find my sexuality, because I know that for me, it would help so much. I know that I'm either Aegosexual, Akoisexual, or Adeisexual (pretty sure that's the correct spelling). I could even be a weird mix between the three. I'm going to put some things below to answer the basic questions, so I would love an answer!

What is my gender?

AFAB female.

How many partners have I had?

Mostly crushes, but 2.5 official guys (one wasn't official), and three girl crushes. And then a LOT of guy crushes.

Opinion on sex?

I see it as a tool for having children and what not, but because of my age (middle school), I have a lot of trouble trying to find my sexuality because of the term s3x and s3xual activities.

Do I find people sexually attractive?

From the examples I've seen, yes. I look at someone, think "Oh, they look great/nice/etc." and then begin to think "I like them, right? What do I want to do with them?" S3x never makes it onto the "want to do with them" list, btw.

Have I ever experienced a kiss?

No.

Do I want to experience a kiss?

Yes and no. This is the reason why I think I'm Akoisexual. I look at people and check the basic "relationship stuff" off in my head. When I don't know the person well, and it's a crush, I kind of want to kiss them, but mainly because I want my first kiss, and they're someone I would be willing to have it with. But when I get to know the person, that wanting to kiss feeling goes away, and then I hate the idea of kissing someone (especially with my current bf). Also, any lip contact (to my own lips or something like cheek or head) is unwanted, even when I don't know the person. I just want that "magical" first kiss.

Thoughts on cuddling?

YES. I'm all about holding hands, cuddling, leaning my head on their shoulder if it's not a truly public place. I can get awkward about it in public though, like I want to do it, but feel weird about it. Again, it mainly has to do with my age.

Am I currently dating anyone?

Yes, a guy. I've realized I'm at least heteromantic.

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In sixth grade, I was bisexual. Looking back on it, I was truly biromantic. I liked three girls, and still liked guys. I would look at girls and guys, and do the "Oh, they're *insert a word for hot*! I want to date them, I think.." Dating was weird, it was the start of middle school, and now I know what dating can be like in this weird teenager phase of life.

Around that time, I came upon some... not age-appropriate stuff. (This is personal to me, I can't even bring myself to tell my parents) I would imagine it in my head, but like aegosexuals, I just saw a white face. Like those Y/N characters on YouTube.

With my current boyfriend, me and him have kind of realized (by accident) that he's probably demiromantic. I'm his only crush (he dated someone else, but he didn't want to hurt her feelings and reject her. I had that happen to me with one of the girls I like, where she lied to me). But I want to hold hands, and cuddle, and just be with him all the time. I've become a bit clingy, like adeisexuals. I didn't have this problem with my first boyfriend, by the way. Me and the first guy weren't exactly the best at the first-time dating stuff, so it was really awkward.

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People keep teasing me to kiss him, and I just, don't want to. Like, I want to kiss someone, but it's weird for me. There's no one I'm interested in kissing, and me and my boyfriend were best friends first, so I still see him as a friend.

I think I might be all three of the sexualitys I put at the beginning, but I don't truly want to have all three. I'd rather have one and use it as an umbrella term for myself, then have three flags I need to explain to every person who asks.

Please don't ask for my specific age, I didn't put it for reasons. I did put the age group so you could understand parts, but anything that is personal, do not ask.

If you need to ask another question, please do!

Now, any ideas?

I know I've seen an ace term for this somewhere, but I cannot for the life of me remember what it is called. Can anyone tell me what the term is for being repulsed when ~~having to~~ perform*ing* sexual acts on others, but not minding or even liking when others perform sexual acts on you? Need this so I can explain to my boyfriend without having to use my own words :P

So i know this is the asexual wikia but unfortunately the LGBTQ one has been blocked for me.

Anygays is there a term for when ur gender changes based on what clothes ur wearing (like masculine for masc clothes, fem for feminine clothes, and neutral for neutral clothes)?

Thank youuuu <3

Ok first of all, is there a term for usually experiencing sparse sexual attraction and then randomly becoming extremely sex repulsed? I'm not usually sex repulsed for very long, usually about a month or two, and that happens about 3ish times a year. And even when I do experience sexual attraction, it's not often at all.

Also, what do queerplatonic and alterous attraction feel like?? I think I mayyyybe feel one of em, only way to describe it is I just feel warm and safe around some people and like. wanna spend my whole life with them. But idk is that just something you feel with close friends??? I don't have many friends that I'm close with so idk.

I've been thinking about my sexuality for some time and I'm stil somewhat unsure. Is there a term for when you only experience sexual attraction under very specific circumstances? would that be greysexual?

For when you're seggsually attracted to AFAB ppl but not to AMAB ppl?

My sister is totally proculsexual, shes dated two celebrities and has a crush on the actor who played the kid from Fuller house becuz she goes to college with him and they are besties

I'm bi, but I don't want to have a sexual relationship with anyone, it seems uncomfortable and I'm not interested, or better, I hate it and feel me guilty and disgusted just thinking about it, at most I would do to please my (girl/boy)friend.

My sexual attraction is complicated, I still have this attraction, but sometimes I feel disgusted by it, but it is in a short period of time, maybe it's something normal. I prefer demonstrate it with sensual relationships (not sexual).

I'm still in doubt if I'm Demi, orchidsexual or pseudo sexual, because these are the labels that come closest to what I feel (I feel me better with the pseudo sexual label).

I hope I'm not faking this, because I've felt this discomfort for a long time, I feel me less asexual or invalid because I'm not totally repulsive about it.

So, I've been AroAce for a little over a year now, and I haven't felt even the slightest bit of romantic attraction to any real person. But a couple of days ago something felt off. Me and one of my friends were just jokingly flirting like we always do. But something felt off this time? Idk how to explain it. Since then, it's been getting worse and I feel like I've startedtto develop a slight crush on him. But at the same time I feel aroace, except I don't feel aroace at the same time. Could someone help??

I talk and fantasize about sexual things but I have no desire to do said things, what would this fit under? My friend said probably Orchidsexual but I read about it and I don't really know.